Friendzone

I had not planned on writing a sequel to my recent blog, Serendipity. However, due to the high volume of emails I have received regarding a status update, I thought I would try and bring closure to inquiring minds.

I have not seen my white horse in about a month…but the prospective contender is largely believed to be involved with someone within a mutual circle, operating under the radar. If this unanimous consensus should prove to hold any validity, I hereby announce that some mysteries should remain mysterious. I am not one to go searching for something I may not be prepared to find.

I have also been asked if I could have a re-do, would I precede any differently. My answer to that question would lie in the cards that are dealt. If I was dealt the same hand, I would play the same cards. However, if I had been privy to his status update prior to the situation-ship, then I would gamble with more approachable stakes. Otherwise, I would not risk my steadfast morals and values on a mere bet that he was single.

***this may be a good time to point out that although I may have “missed the connecting flight” on several different occasions, the white horse (Sebastian is a good fictional name for this real life character) missed his connecting flights on several different occasions, as well. Therefore, this is not the sad story about unrequited love…more like frequencies stalling in the crosswinds. Like unrequited love, however, the reality is that we may always continue to miss our connecting flights. I may believe in unicorns and faeries but I am also capable of being a practical realist. Don’t worry, we will save the discussion of probability vs outcome for another day…lol.***

Another question that has been presented to me is if there was another opportunity to reboot the connection (assuming the stars gave the green light), how would you play your cards. My reply would be I would maintain a poker face, see him and raise him one. In other words, I would not change any aspect of my interactions with him. I would continue to consider him a friend, as in the recent years I have known him. Any ideas or suggestions for a closer connection would need to be initiated by him, as I do not chase horses when they are frolicking in the field…even the elusive white horse. I also do not chase temporary whims or swim in shallow waters. I need to know if I am reading fact or fiction…therefore, one would have to meet me in the deep end for me to know how to precede.

What if he is too shy or nervous? I would say, he needs to embrace his power! He has the power…he demonstrated the “hook, line and sinker” technique all too well, previously 🙂

While there are certainly other things to consider, time would be a crucial consideration. Statistically, attorneys take an average of 9 months to settle a divorce case (whether the case is settled inside or outside a court room). There is a reason for this: to make certain that parties do not reconsider their procession towards their final divorce decree (reheating McDonald’s french fries). Granted everyone is different but the general consensus is that it takes about a year to unload emotional baggage, heal and regenerate after a divorce is final in order to move forward in a healthy manner. If Sebastian plays the friendship card for the next 6 months before taking a relationship to the next level, the odds of the “rebound ship wreck” greatly diminish. Otherwise, it may be best to turn Sebastian out in the field to play with the wild mustangs for a while.

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On a metaphysical note, my recent sciatica ailments in the hip area reflect a fear of change. Had I become too content and complacent sailing the seas solo? To add a variable at this juncture, I would ask myself, “do I need to walk it?” “How often does it need to be fed?” “Here we go again… mixed signals resulting in second thoughts”…

If one were to cautiously ask Sebastian if he is accepting applications, consider the following interview statements and/or thoughts:

Remind yourself that you have no desire to chase love, affection or attention. If these things are not given freely, they are not worth having…just keep it at “hello”, casual convo and keep moving along.

Additionally, if anyone can have this particular subject of desire, I don’t want it.

If previous contenders did not make the audition cut, ask yourself why?

I am not interested in Junior League mind games. As soon as someone ghosts you, fire them. If they treat you like a 2nd option, treat them like they are your last option and exit thru the nearest door. Odds are, I would prefer to be out on dragon fly rides…BUT…at least give me the first right of refusal.

Instead, treat me with loyalty, respect & honesty…I can support myself.

I do not lie, cheat nor will I be the first one to leave. However, if you should ask me to leave…you will not have to ask me twice, as life is too short to remain where I am not wanted.

Finally, don’t send me your mug shots…just send me a photo of your medicine cabinet so I know what kind of psychopath I am dealing with.

If the Steele Magnolia ends up passing your third eye without any red flags and Sebastian appears before you, check to make certain your heart is still beating. Are you sure? When did you last check? If you wish to precede past the caution light, don’t forget to grab a life jacket…and an anchor just to be on the safe side 🙂

FOOTNOTE: As with Serendipity, I will not be be bringing this blog to the forefront on FB to protect the privacy of Sebastian. I extend my upmost appreciation to my followers and those interested enough to ask for updates 🙂 Much love to all of you!!!